Here are two sample quotes and then the link...
"The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. If you want your child, spouse, client or boss to shape up, stay connected while changing yourself, rather than trying to fix them."
"A group of clergy came to me from one of the major religious denominations in our society and said, 'We are about to start a project that will raise fifty million dollars for our five hundred most troubled ministers. How would you spend it?' I responded, 'Why would you put fifty million into your most troubled? You will advance your denomination and our society far more if you put it into your five hundred best.' They answered, "But we could never raise the money for that.'"
Seriously, I have this book underlined more than just about any I own.
or try this. (Someone told me the link was broken, so try this...)